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Thomas Lam

1938 - 2018

Thomas Lam obituary, 1938-2018, Berkeley, Ca

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1938

DIED

2018

Thomas Lam Obituary

Thomas P. Lam

April 12, 1938 - February 20, 2018

A wonderful father, grandpa, brother, uncle, friend and successful entrepreneur—Thomas Poon Key Lam lived a vibrant 79 years and passed away on February 20th, 2018 from cardiac failure. Tom was the eldest son of Lam Bong Cheung and Ku Sau Fong, and spent his childhood in China and Hong Kong. Always independent and adventurous, Tom immigrated to the U.S. in 1958 with all of his worldly belongings in three suitcases and $300 to his name. He attended Chaffey College in CA where he worked his way through school and, importantly, met his wife and the mother of his two daughters, Dorcy Go. Recognizing that education would fuel his pursuit of the American Dream, Tom transferred to U.C. Berkeley in 1960, earning a degree in Business Administration, and married his sweetheart, Dorcy in June 1963. After graduation, Tom began his business career at Cal Life Insurance, but always wanted "to be his own boss" and pursued a career in real estate sales and subsequently became a successful general contractor, building dozens of lovely single family homes in the Bay Area. With his strong entrepreneurial drive, Tom also launched many successful small businesses as varied as a chain of one hour photo shops and a sizable senior citizen's residence. He cared deeply about his local community and was a member of the Rotary Club, Lake Merritt Breakfast Club and the Wat Sun Service Club.

Tom was born the son of a "third wife" in China and built a life in the U.S. that was the epitome of the American Dream. Moreover, everyone who knew Tom knew what a big heart and warm smile he commanded, and nothing made him smile wider than catching a big fish! He loved to fish and even owned several commercial fishing boats; fishing was his favorite pastime, which he enjoyed even in his final years, enabled by his devoted caregiver, Scott Scroggs. He was a man who lived life joyfully and was an eternal optimist with a huge laugh. He was just the best Dad and Grandpa. We will miss him so.

Tom is survived by his daughters Olivia and Rachel, his grandchildren Alexis and Ethan, his brothers David, Tony and Benson, and his sisters Edith, Cathy, Susan and Monita.

Services for Tom Lam will be held on March 17th, 2018 from 11:00AM-1:15PM at the Mountain View Cemetery in the Tower Chapel, 5000 Piedmont Ave., Oakland, CA. If sending flowers, please consider using www.fromtheheartflorists.com, (510) 986-1818, who are handling the floral arrangements for the March 17th service.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by San Francisco Chronicle from Mar. 8 to Mar. 11, 2018.

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Olivia

March 2, 2022

My heart clenches when I think of you. You had a very full life . I just wish we had had more time. Love you dad!

Rachel Lam

May 11, 2019

Miss you so, Dad. Waving at you from NYC. Sending you a BIG hug.

Okashi Robles

March 16, 2018

Dear Mr. Lam,
I have memories of how wonderfully warm and kind you were over the years when I would see you every night when you picked up Rachel from gymnastics, when I hung out at the house and had dinner (always offering me Squirt), and fishing on your boat. Your smile truly went from ear to ear. You will be missed.
Love, Okashi
You will be missed.

Lara Hejtmanek

March 16, 2018

Dear Mr. Lam, Thank you for your warm heart, kindness, big laugh, and beautiful spirit. I was always impressed with your self-made entrepreneurial drive and I have such fond memories of you during our high school years and beyond! Luckily I can still see your big smile in your amazing daughters. You are loved and will be missed. Love, Lara

Ethan Fry

March 13, 2018

Hey Grandpa I love you so much and you will always be with me in my heart and in spirit. Im so sad you left us, but I will always admire you and will never never forget you. Thank you for being with me and helping me love your dearest grandson Ethan Fry

Scott Scroggs

March 12, 2018

Tom was unequivocally the best friend a person could ask for. He had the most contagious laugh that would instantly brighten the mood of any environment. He cheered me up many times when I most needed it. I am forever grateful we crossed paths in our lives. He will be deeply missed!

March 12, 2018

I am deeply blessed to have known Tom, Dorcy, Olivia, and Rachel my whole life. Tom was like a second father to me and always made everyone feel good about themselves. His love will live on through his always kind daughters and spirited loving grandchildren. Love ❤ Devora

Howard Chua-Eoan

March 9, 2018

I never got to know uncle till much later in my life. But, when I did, I was always glad to see him again and again at the home of his daughter (my cousin) Rachel in New York. He was a sweet man, who had many stories about the Go clan, which was how our lives intersected. As an in-law, he approached our family temperament--which could go from loving warmth to volcanic in a moment--with a mixture of awe and humor. I will miss him a lot but will see him in the smiles and the kindness of Olivia and Rachel.

Julie Rettig

March 9, 2018

Your smile is your trademark. I think the last time we were together, we were at a crab feed. You enjoyed your food. Love to you and your dear daughters. ❤

Peggy Lee

March 9, 2018

R.I.P.

March 9, 2018

Hi (big brother masterNo one knows real estate better than you do i had the privilige learning from the best thank you Brother Tom

Sabina

AC

March 9, 2018

God is good and merciful, he keep those who pass on in his memory because they are precious to him. Psalms 116:15.

Olivia Lam Toone

March 8, 2018

My dad was a great man. His light shone from the inside out. His smile and sense of humor could power a whole city. There will never be another Tom Lam. Even in the face of declining health and long term illness; dad maintained his sense of humor and positive attitude. He was the best dad, grandpa, father-in-law and friend. Everyone loved him who knew him. Until we meet again, dear daddy.

Rachel Lam

March 8, 2018

Just miss you so, Dad. Hope you found Mom up there and are smiling and laughing together. Keep a watch over us!

Love, love, love you.

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